婚姻，只是一纸合约。 爱情，也不是绳索。 对方，永远不是你的附属

[roly8]

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婚姻，只是一纸合约。
爱情，也不是绳索。
对方，永远不是你的附属。
爱情不是永远的，婚姻不是永远的，
只有一种永远：自由与平等。
你们随时有权决定在一起或不在一起。
而且，根本不需要理由。
以婚姻的名义，以爱情的名义，
去独占对方，去限制对方，
去管理对方，去教育对方，都是可悲的。
也是悲剧的根源。别让爱成长了伤害。

[Laguna]

被人摔了？
只有你自己的钱才是你的永恒

[buttercarp]

Why you so disillusioned?
In Singapore, no choice.
If you wanna stay together and have kids, you have to get married to enjoy the benefits.
If it wasn't the case, I don't think I would have gotten married.
I would be happy to lead my present lifestyle without the marriage cert.
But we are a certificate society, so we have to conform.........
Certify, stamp, chop to confirm.

[Arcachon]

In France they do this,

Cohabitation is an arrangement where two people who are not married live together in an intimate relationship, particularly an emotionally and/or sexually intimate one, on a long-term or permanent basis.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cohabitation

http://marriage.about.com/od/cohabit...cohabfacts.htm

http://belgiumcohabitationvisa.com/

http://marriagepartner.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3846

[Laguna]

In France they do this,

Cohabitation is an arrangement where two people who are not married live together in an intimate relationship, particularly an emotionally and/or sexually intimate one, on a long-term or permanent basis.

can u accept this?
if your children say to you, they prefer this sort of relationship, what will be your reaction...

[roly8]

ang mo very open minded one
you cannot compare with asian..

[Wild Falcon]

I think marriage is a choice. But like what the verse says, marriage or love shouldn't be about controlling each other and possessing each other. I used to have exes who are so controlling - so scared of you cheating on them. This kind of relationship is pointless.

[buttercarp]

can u accept this?
if your children say to you, they prefer this sort of relationship, what will be your reaction...

If son, then can.
Daughter then cannot.

[price]

can u accept this?
if your children say to you, they prefer this sort of relationship, what will be your reaction...

Did your children tell u this?

[Komo]

some values are worth preserving in order that we can go further

[Shanhz]

Why you so disillusioned?
In Singapore, no choice.
If you wanna stay together and have kids, you have to get married to enjoy the benefits.
If it wasn't the case, I don't think I would have gotten married.
I would be happy to lead my present lifestyle without the marriage cert.
But we are a certificate society, so we have to conform.........
Certify, stamp, chop to confirm.

singapore marriage certificate very worth $$$... can collect tax rebate, baby bonus, buy HDB/EC, combine CPF to buy many houses, etc etc.

[bsslang]

Marriage needs both both husband and wife treat each other like best friend and yet more intimate and forgiving.

If you believe marriage is just a contract or you are not feeling confident into into marriage, you probably have not found the right soul mate. It could also be you are trying to find one that fit your ideal spouse rather than liking the good and accepting the bad of your potential partner.

[bsslang]

I am not for or againt marriage cert, just that it will not be a consideration when you have found the right person. In fact I am for breaking off marriage when husband/wife really find themselve unable to live happily together.

[einnoc]

Felt the poem was a little too pessimistic n sad....Here is one poem for u, roly. Marriage is never a bed of roses but it has all the exciting elements u need to experience in your life. Sour, Sweet, Bitter & Spicy. U can get a marriage easily thru a marriage certificate. However, you need a lot of time, love & commitment to grow it into a "Freehold" marriage.

True Love Never Lost © Richard Lake Jr

As we age I cherish the past,
two lovers grow, a family at last.
A date night followed by talks and lust,
next day kids and school, waiting for the bus.

Kindergarten went by fast,
dance, baseball, what a blast!
Our little baby is a teen,
where did the time go in between?

Date night, when was the last time?
work, bills, we're left without a dime.
Our kids our growing, graduation soon,
perhaps like a flower our lost love will bloom.

Our patience short, a sudden turn,
our love colliding, starting to burn.
Shouting, crying, regret once more,
have we forgotten our love, will there be no more?

Back from a seed, a giant Willow Tree,
spreading the roots, a strong foundation, a family tree.
Thankful for much, God's helping hand,
guiding us with his mighty plan.

Through the dark, two lovers rise,
the blinders are taken from our eyes.
Thankful for much, why couldn't we see
the blessings abound, a beautiful family.

Laughing, dancing, date nights, talks,
picnics, kissing, moon-lit walks.
Though the trials and tribulations we did see,
that true love and family forever will be.