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    Default How to TEST you and your spouse/GF..compatible

    Do this simple TEST decide to do major reno to your house ...then GO down to Soon Bee Huat(Tiles supplier)at EUNOS next to the mosque opposite the famous yong tau foo shop...to choose the tile s for your whole house(Kitchen/bathroom/hall/bedroom)...

    If you can do it in 30mins...NO quarrel--IDEAL couple

    30mins-1hr...bit quarrel...OK i guess...

    More than 1 hr with major argument..you got problems...

    HAHAHA..yesterday me and my wife went there to choose tiles for our upcoming reno.....so many couples there haha so funny some argue some squabble...haha..oh by the way i took 30min to 1hr...

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    I can do it all in less than 30 min.
    So far all the reno, decision to buy house and car all like take few minutes only .

    Not like my parents time...... i remember always got some kind of war.
    Then we chewren so scared at that time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by radha08
    Do this simple TEST decide to do major reno to your house ...then GO down to Soon Bee Huat(Tiles supplier)at EUNOS next to the mosque opposite the famous yong tau foo shop...to choose the tile s for your whole house(Kitchen/bathroom/hall/bedroom)...

    If you can do it in 30mins...NO quarrel--IDEAL couple

    30mins-1hr...bit quarrel...OK i guess...

    More than 1 hr with major argument..you got problems...

    HAHAHA..yesterday me and my wife went there to choose tiles for our upcoming reno.....so many couples there haha so funny some argue some squabble...haha..oh by the way i took 30min to 1hr...
    hahahaha. My wife and i most compatible because i ask her to stay home while i decide the reno, ID and furniture. Sometimes she has her opinion but i over-ride her. How to over-ride her? I pay for all expenses and a bag of her choice (no Birkin).

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    Sad to say, mine is pure War.

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    ha ha keep it coming....next time i ever do this i got to bring a leash for my WIFE.......even after we walk out and choose the tiles...she wanted to go back in...NOT sure bout kitchen floor tiles.....colour

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    My first reno need to loan from SAF. 6 x the salary = $6,600. Don't need to bring wife, she leave everything to me, 0 min.

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    all i can say is if you plan for own stay, buy the most ex furniture u can afford, it will last

    my wife bought a Unicane sofa 12y ago, still like new today
    Ride at your own risk !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by phantom_opera
    all i can say is if you plan for own stay, buy the most ex furniture u can afford, it will last

    my wife bought a Unicane sofa 12y ago, still like new today
    Agree with you.
    Mine is a leather sofa of 10 years.
    If not for my previous maid who used some detergent and spoiled it, it would probably look new too.
    If you close your eyes and sit on it, you won't know it is old cos the sponge inside is still as firm, and of course no cockroaches like radha's rented!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mygeemeel
    hahahaha. My wife and i most compatible because i ask her to stay home while i decide the reno, ID and furniture. Sometimes she has her opinion but i over-ride her. How to over-ride her? I pay for all expenses and a bag of her choice (no Birkin).
    Hey..... you just gave me an idea......
    I should not agree so easily, then I may get a bag too .

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    Quote Originally Posted by buttercarp
    Agree with you.
    Mine is a leather sofa of 10 years.
    If not for my previous maid who used some detergent and spoiled it, it would probably look new too.
    If you close your eyes and sit on it, you won't know it is old cos the sponge inside is still as firm, and of course no cockroaches like radha's rented!
    Used to have cane sofa... Nice and cooling .... Except that the gaps collect alot of dust...

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    Quote Originally Posted by radha08
    ha ha keep it coming....next time i ever do this i got to bring a leash for my WIFE.......even after we walk out and choose the tiles...she wanted to go back in...NOT sure bout kitchen floor tiles.....colour

    Terra-cotta tiles are nice and good. It has it own colour and evey tiles has diff cavitures and grain pattern...Cheaper then marble, granite and just abit more ex then homogen tiles..

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    Unfortunately, if have to wait till "choosing tile for renovation" stage to determine suitability of spouse then its too late liao.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by buttercarp
    Agree with you.
    Mine is a leather sofa of 10 years.
    If not for my previous maid who used some detergent and spoiled it, it would probably look new too.
    If you close your eyes and sit on it, you won't know it is old cos the sponge inside is still as firm, and of course no cockroaches like radha's rented!

    hai yo dont remind me i told my wife she almost collapsed cos she HATES those creepy crawlies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    Unfortunately, if have to wait till "choosing tile for renovation" stage to determine suitability of spouse then its too late liao.....
    JUST trying my best to corelate my daily experiences with the PROPERTY market and MARRIAGE...forgive me if i failed....

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    I am nobody to judge... apologies if I sounded judgemental

    Anyway, the problem with many marriages is that we tend to ignore signs of incompatibility during the courtship stage. Somewhere down the line with kids in tow and major financial commitments that are too deep to back out, many realise some incompatibilty issues just cannot be resolved.

    A major incompatibility alarm bell are views on parents/parents-in-law... ie. living arrangements, subsistence allowance, visits....etc. Many go into a marriage believing that the proverbial boat will straighten when it reaches the bridge.... it usually doesn't. It remains a thorny issue...

    Just my 2 cents...

    Quote Originally Posted by radha08
    JUST trying my best to corelate my daily experiences with the PROPERTY market and MARRIAGE...forgive me if i failed....

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    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    I am nobody to judge... apologies if I sounded judgemental

    Anyway, the problem with many marriages is that we tend to ignore signs of incompatibility during the courtship stage. Somewhere down the line with kids in tow and major financial commitments that are too deep to back out, many realise some incompatibilty issues just cannot be resolved.

    A major incompatibility alarm bell are views on parents/parents-in-law... ie. living arrangements, subsistence allowance, visits....etc. Many go into a marriage believing that the proverbial boat will straighten when it reaches the bridge.... it usually doesn't. It remains a thorny issue...

    Just my 2 cents...
    For a lasting marriage.....
    First and foremost, there should not be any interference from both sides parents.
    Therefore, it would be good that grandparents remain as emergency care givers rather than main caregiver.

    Secondly, the union should not be subjected to tradition eg celebrate wedding, invite every single relative etc. It should be done out of their free will.

    Thirdly, there should not be emphasis on face issue.
    Eg if the spouse is not in the mood to visit the other spouse's family or attend gathering, he or she should not be pressurized to do so.

    Fourthly, the decision on how to bring up the kids should be unanimous, but if not, then let one party make the major decision.

    Fifthly, when buying a shared property, each side must take the cue from the other party. If one likes it very much and if it is within their budget , the other should try and find reasons to like it as well.

    These are some golden rules to a lasting marriage.

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    And for this reason, Yowetan (if his stories are true) has something admirable... the harmony in his family almost seems too good and incredible to be believed.

    For example..there won't be any fights between husband and wife over whose parents' house to go for reunion dinner during CNY since they are all living together.

    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    I am nobody to judge... apologies if I sounded judgemental

    Anyway, the problem with many marriages is that we tend to ignore signs of incompatibility during the courtship stage. Somewhere down the line with kids in tow and major financial commitments that are too deep to back out, many realise some incompatibilty issues just cannot be resolved.

    A major incompatibility alarm bell are views on parents/parents-in-law... ie. living arrangements, subsistence allowance, visits....etc. Many go into a marriage believing that the proverbial boat will straighten when it reaches the bridge.... it usually doesn't. It remains a thorny issue...

    Just my 2 cents...

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    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    And for this reason, Yowetan (if his stories are true) has something admirable... the harmony in his family almost seems too good and incredible to be believed.

    For example..there won't be any fights between husband and wife over whose parents' house to go for reunion dinner during CNY since they are all living together.
    Yowetan has a hold on everyone under his roof, including his adopted brother in law, which is amazing.
    Maybe he knows how to charm them, like he charmed all of us into discussing his controversial lifestyle.

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    For me, I take a few hours with my wife to source tile, furniture,....when 2 yrs ago Reno time. Some occassion, we did went to the shop again once or twice to confirm our star buy.

    I felt that it's one of the way to bonding our relationship instead of compatibility test.
    Due to the reno, We got more time to communicate to each other to learn more about each other, in return we love each other more n more each day pass by....lol!

    My wife alway said she is not greedy....50yrs unchangeable love is sufficient but alway re-fresh from 0 so 50yrs will never come.. !
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    My wife decides on colour and design. I decide on type like marble, homo, etc and size. Unless its super loud or weird, there shouldn't be any problem. I got a yellow car because my wife liked that colour but I did the math plus chose the car model. No quarrel lah...

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    Quote Originally Posted by ysyap
    My wife decides on colour and design. I decide on type like marble, homo, etc and size. Unless its super loud or weird, there shouldn't be any problem. I got a yellow car because my wife liked that colour but I did the math plus chose the car model. No quarrel lah...
    only yellow car i can think off is suzuki swift sports...or mitsubishi evolution...or honda integra....or porsche....or lamborghini......

    which is urs...

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    Quote Originally Posted by buttercarp
    For a lasting marriage.....
    First and foremost, there should not be any interference from both sides parents.
    Therefore, it would be good that grandparents remain as emergency care givers rather than main caregiver.

    Secondly, the union should not be subjected to tradition eg celebrate wedding, invite every single relative etc. It should be done out of their free will.

    Thirdly, there should not be emphasis on face issue.
    Eg if the spouse is not in the mood to visit the other spouse's family or attend gathering, he or she should not be pressurized to do so.

    Fourthly, the decision on how to bring up the kids should be unanimous, but if not, then let one party make the major decision.

    Fifthly, when buying a shared property, each side must take the cue from the other party. If one likes it very much and if it is within their budget , the other should try and find reasons to like it as well.

    These are some golden rules to a lasting marriage.
    my 2 cents after 10 years marriage when it comes to topic of in-laws between you and your spouse....it is VERY Sensitive issue

    "Hear NO evil See No evil...Do no evil"...help you god....

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    @buttercarp my parents failed on all counts.

    thats why now in their 70s they still quarrel every day, often over minute matters.

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    That is the Asian culture... many choose to hang on to an incompatible marriage for fear of the social stigma of a divorce (amongst other practical reasons... Asians also a very practical lot)... in the west many would have divorced long ago.

    Quote Originally Posted by carbuncle
    @buttercarp my parents failed on all counts.

    thats why now in their 70s they still quarrel every day, often over minute matters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    That is the Asian culture... many choose to hang on to an incompatible marriage for fear of the social stigma of a divorce (amongst other practical reasons... Asians also a very practical lot)... in the west many would have divorced long ago.
    in the west they call marriage Hire and Fire....

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    Quote Originally Posted by howgozit
    I am nobody to judge... apologies if I sounded judgemental

    Anyway, the problem with many marriages is that we tend to ignore signs of incompatibility during the courtship stage. Somewhere down the line with kids in tow and major financial commitments that are too deep to back out, many realise some incompatibilty issues just cannot be resolved.

    A major incompatibility alarm bell are views on parents/parents-in-law... ie. living arrangements, subsistence allowance, visits....etc. Many go into a marriage believing that the proverbial boat will straighten when it reaches the bridge.... it usually doesn't. It remains a thorny issue...

    Just my 2 cents...
    I fully agree with the above. I have ended many a relationships over issues such as:

    money
    career
    hygiene
    sex
    social life
    temperament
    aircon usage

    (I'm not kidding about the last)

    People may see me as heartless. I just see myself as refuse to compromise. Do agree nobody is perfect on this point, and compromise is always necessary - but the question is, how much are you willing to tolerate? If even before you co-habitat, such issues already arise and neither party is willing to work towards a solution or compromise, what's the point of carrying on? Does one seriously think it will get better if you 'get married'??

    I seriously doubt so.

    Therein lies the reason why so many families are unhappy as a result of mismatches - and the unhappiness permeates throughout the entire house and lives of loved ones surrounding them.

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    My wife normally spend hours there, I will rush in and just spend 10 minutes, mainly to sign the cards.

    Thanks,
    Richard
    PS. She was trained for design and architect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by richwang
    My wife normally spend hours there, I will rush in and just spend 10 minutes, mainly to sign the cards.

    Thanks,
    Richard
    PS. She was trained for design and architect.
    and u were trained in....FINANCE....

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    Quote Originally Posted by carbuncle
    I fully agree with the above. I have ended many a relationships over issues such as:

    money
    career
    hygiene
    sex
    social life
    temperament
    aircon usage

    (I'm not kidding about the last)

    People may see me as heartless. I just see myself as refuse to compromise. Do agree nobody is perfect on this point, and compromise is always necessary - but the question is, how much are you willing to tolerate? If even before you co-habitat, such issues already arise and neither party is willing to work towards a solution or compromise, what's the point of carrying on? Does one seriously think it will get better if you 'get married'??

    I seriously doubt so.

    Therein lies the reason why so many families are unhappy as a result of mismatches - and the unhappiness permeates throughout the entire house and lives of loved ones surrounding them.
    SEX....

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    two strangers agree to give everything to the other...it's a miracle ! treasure it!

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